Now that you’re finally divorced, your feelings are all over the place. I know it’s so weird to be on your own again. But it doesn’t have to be all about loss and negative emotions.
Smile, because here’s some things to truly look forward to!
1. Personal Time
Rediscover yourself! Take the alone time you have and really focus on yourself for a while. Distance yourself from any negative things or people in your life, including certain family members and friends.
Leave your phone in the car and walk out somewhere beautiful. Like a park, the beach, a hiking trail…etc. Sit on the couch with a cup of coffee in silence. Take a bath with some candles.
The point is to turn off all of the outside influence and let your thoughts roll in. You would be surprised at how little we actually do this nowadays.
It’s important to think for yourself during this transition in your life, to really learn from mistakes and figure out what you want moving forward.
2. Lose weight
When I moved into my own place, I lost 15 lbs like that! Here’s some tips on how I did it.
- I ONLY buy healthy things to eat.
- I pack my lunches for work.
- I snack often and eat smaller meals.
- I don’t eat large meals past 7PM.
- I no longer have to cook huge meals for the whole household. The days I have my son…he eats what I eat!
- I drink all types of tea with honey 3x daily. Sometimes I’ll put Apple Cider Vinegar in it (AMAZING for weight loss)!
- I work out a couple times per week (yes that’s it!!! Diet is 80% of weight loss)! Here are some workout’s I do from Pinterest- Doable Workouts for the Busiest Moms!
3. Career Progression
If you have always been a stay at home parent and maybe had a job at Dairy Queen as a kid, you may be a little rusty on your professional game. Here’s a few articles that may help boost your confidence and help you discover a career you will love!
I understand that it’s EXTREMELY SCARY and uncomfortable to enter the workforce, but this is your chance to redefine who you are! You’ll discover new passions and strengths.
If you already have a job, now’s your chance to either make that switch to do what you’ve always wanted to do without the pressure from your spouse…OR stay and progress as far as you’d like! You finally get to focus on your career and build the life of your dreams, doing what you love! Don’t take it lightly!
In order to grow as a person, you MUST put yourself in uncomfortable situations. Finding a new career can be the most empowering and rewarding thing you have ever done (besides being a parent of course)!
4. Budget for what YOU want
This is the fun part! Try not to let it stress you out. Just understand that IT TAKES TIME to build a good foundation of household items and a savings.
Cut yourself some slack! You just went through a world of change and survived it! *pinch yourself to make sure*….so give yourself a pat on the back!!!!
Now, first things first…you need to reevaluate how much money is coming in and all of your bills. ESPECIALLY if you’ve never looked at that stuff before!
You have the potential to make your life the way you want it. The small choices you make now are going to determine the rest of your life. So choose wisely how you want to spend your money.
5. You get to do what you want, when you want
If I want to spend the day at the beach, I can. If I want to have a few drinks with some friends, I can. If I want to spend $200 on some shoes, I can (not that I would…hehe!) There is no one there to stop me!
This huge change can be extremely overwhelming and cause tons of guilt, especially if you are a parent having fun while your kids are with your ex.
Now that you’re divorced, you don’t have to feel suppressed! You get to be whoever you want to be! Do whatever you want to do! Don’t let anyone hold you back.
People around you will be inspired by your independence and desire to be a better than you were before.
It’s up to you to either let your divorce consume you…or use your divorce as a slingshot into the life you’ve always wanted.