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Dating After Divorce Intrroducing the Ex

How I Introduced My Ex-Husband To My New Boyfriend-Eek!

My good friend Tiffany somehow managed to introduce her ex-husband to her new boyfriend without any drama! Tiffany from is the author of this post! She’s a single momtrepreneur with a dream. She just launched her new jewelry line with the help of her daughter Gabby (Gabs). Every piece of her jewelry tells an incredible inspiring story. Be sure to give her a visit!

Let’s a take a moment to reflect back on the first kiss: There were probably some knots in your stomach leading up to it. And you probably thought at great length as to how everything would go down – the scenery, what you wore, what will they think of you, etc. You spent all of this time overthinking each and every nuance of it in great detail to where that one moment was built up quite a bit.

And then…it happened.

The result: it wasn’t so bad and actually, it was quite simple. Wait, you mean to say I SO worried for nothing?

Now, let’s look at another scenario: Your new boyfriend meeting the ex

What’s the first thought that comes to mind? Are you overloaded with all the possible outcomes and details similar to the first kiss fear above? And then you see what the result was, not too bad, eh? Do you see what I’m getting at?

Been there, done that. I worked out all of the crazy possible scenarios in my head for the day my boyfriend would meet my ex husband.

It actually wasn’t planned which let me tell you ended up working out to my benefit. I didn’t have as much time to think about it… It happened because there was an event that I was attending with my boyfriend and it was my weekend with my daughter however kids weren’t allowed. I was supposed to bring her to the ex’s house beforehand but ran out of time so my ex met us at the event. To my surprise, he arrived early.

I was completely overcome with worry, my heart raced and I learned much later on, it was all for nothing.

You see men don’t put nearly as much thought into things like women do and sometimes barely any. They simply just act as they need to.

Before I sat down to write this, I asked my boyfriend’s perspective in how he thought that first meeting went

And here’s what he said, plain and simple, “I didn’t put any thought into it. I saw him, shook his hand and said hello, done. No other thoughts crossed my mind.” Wait, what!?, I thought.

Meanwhile, after the “meet” went down, I turned to my girlfriend whom was with us when the aforementioned first kiss, er um rather first meeting went down (while nobody else was around) and said in panic, “How do you think it went? Do you think that the guys were cool with it…” and so on. And then as if her reassurance of saying that it went great and both guys were fine, wasn’t enough for me, I replayed the scenario to several of my girlfriends and my sisters. Now if I had just asked my boyfriend’s opinion, I probably would have shut down all of that post-worry (well, maybe some of it).

So I’m here, sharing my story with you to first let you know that you’re not alone, we all worry about this in great depth, which is completely normal. However, if there’s one takeaway I can give you here is to refer to the KISS method.

Keep It Simple, Stupid

Just like that very first kiss you had, you can rest assure that this first meeting will be pretty simple and basic. There won’t be any fireworks (at least I hope not), and there won’t be any crazy revelations. It will be just that… simple.

If you don’t have the luxury for the first meet and greet to happen naturally as mine did, here’s what I suggest, apply the KISS method to here as well. Keep the meeting very brief, there’s no need for bonding over drinks – keep in mind that there could still be some bruised egos or wounded hearts so be sensitive to that. If your boyfriend/girlfriend has met your kids already, perhaps you setup a quick meet and greet during a scenario such as mine or maybe it’s at a party where there are more people involved. Whatever the situation, just keep it simple and don’t overthink it. Keep in mind that this is all for the benefit of your kids – there’s no competition, nor comparison needed at all.

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How I Introduced My Ex Husband To My New Boyfriend-My anxiety was at an all time high. I hadn't had time to plan their meet. I just had to cross my fingers and wish for the best. Pin Now! Read Later.

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Tiffany Castillo

Tiffany Castillo is a guest blogger that lives in Atlanta where she recently launched her own brand, Wholeheartedly, Inc. The brand offers inspiration through jewelry, prints, tees & so much more. Everything is designed with pieces that symbolize women's life experiences. As a brand, she believes that women should embrace their unique stories - these are the "pieces" that makes them rather than break them. She’s relatable, authentic, vulnerable and very transparent in her personal stories of divorce, co-parenting her 6-year-old daughter, dating after divorce, starting a new business while working full time, among so many other life experiences while shedding light on both the ups and downs of it all. Being a single mom, Tiffany realizes the importance of women not only being able to provide for their kids, but to show other women that they can achieve what they have long dreamt for. She loves nothing more than providing an example and offering inspiration in any way she can and therefore plans to give back a portion of Wholeheartedly, Inc’s proceeds in support of women entrepreneurs. You can shop her brand at where you’ll also be able to follow her journey and read about the pieces of her heart on her blog.

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